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Tuesday, May 24, 2022

You can’t take it with you

By Marianne Delorey Americans tend to have more stuff than they need. At no time is this more apparent than when they are downsizing. There...

Do good. Then do better.

While in college I worked at a nursing home where I met Mary. Mary had severe dementia and was combative. One day while trying to bring her to the commode, she punched me. Hard. With both fists. In the kidneys. I saw stars. Cathy was another resident who would lash out. Cathy did not honor social envelopes nor did she know when enough was enough. She would interrupt me without thinking and would talk for hours if left unchecked. Sometimes, if she felt she was being ignored, she would get in my face and say some pretty unkind things.

The new reality show: An elder in an empty apartment

By Marianne Delorey I’ve never been much for reality TV, but there is one show that hits home in my profession. The show is Design...

There is no ‘I’ in team

Over the summer, I play softball with a bunch of other women in my town. I am older than and not as nimble as my younger teammates. Even if I were, I’ve never been particularly athletic. But, they let me play and I enjoy my time on the field. Granted, I am always a bit worried that I am going to mess up, but even when I do, someone is there to back me up and we keep playing. I am part of a team. That is what teammates do.
Unusual among area senior living communities, New Horizons at Marlborough features a heated indoor lap swimming pool that residents and their families use for recreation and exercise, including “watercise” classes. Photo/Submitted

Woburn’s Cummings Foundation supports older adults in a variety of ways

By Peg Lopata, Contributing Writer WOBURN - Bill and Joyce Cummings of Winchester began making donations, many to organizations dedicated to elders, a long time...

Aging drills

By Marianne Delorey “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think...

Going smoke free in senior housing has legal support

By Marianne Delorey© “Due to state laws, the restaurant was nonsmoking, which as a nonsmoker pleases me, but as a Libertarian it pisses me off....

Movies and the elderly

In 1985, a comic first appeared that proposed one way to judge a film. The Bechdel Test is a simple measure about a movie’s inclusion of female characters. The test asks: 1) Does the movie have at least two women in it? 2) Do they talk to each other? and 3) Does their conversation touch on anything other than a man? Because the Oscars are coming up, this article focuses on creating a similar way to rate how elder-friendly a movie is. Because of the length and breadth of her career, I am calling this the Betty White Movie scale.

Those who humble themselves will be exalted

A large part of our success in aging well has to do with how we cope with changes in our bodies. All bodies change over time. There are amazing people who are able to continue using the same skills well into older adulthood. There are also some incredible people who develop or hone new skills as they age. For most people, however, we need to be mindful that our changing abilities can affect our self-esteem. Those who pride themselves on their intellect may face an easier time with sore knees than memory loss, and those that were very skilled with their hands might have an easier time with cataracts than arthritis. But none of us are immune to the frustrations of changing bodies. Very often, we have to remind ourselves, if not society in general, of our own worth, even as we lose some of our functioning.

Home within a home as families live together longer

The number of so-called multi-generational households — where adults are living with their elderly parents or grown children — has jumped since the Great Recession forced Americans to rethink living on their own.