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Wednesday, October 23, 2019

Unconventional choices

By Marianne Delorey Perhaps it is the nature of elder housing. Perhaps people who have no one else seek community in their later years. In...

Moving into a long term care facility

By Micha Shalev MHA CDP CDCM CADDCT Part one of this series appeared in the April issue of the Fifty Plus Advocate. Part three will...

Home within a home as families live together longer

The number of so-called multi-generational households — where adults are living with their elderly parents or grown children — has jumped since the Great Recession forced Americans to rethink living on their own.

Moving into a long term care facility

By Micha Shalev Part one of this series appeared in the April issue of the Fifty Plus Advocate. Part two appeared in the May issue...

Back in my day

By Marianne Delorey “Age is foolish and forgetful when it underestimates youth.”  – J.K. Rowling Tension between the generations is natural. Even young toddlers need to...

I am grief

By Marianne Delorey I am grief. I am ugliness borne out of love and loss. I am powerful. I can bring the strongest among you...

With or without you

By Marianne Delorey Dearest Relative, I recently mentioned my worries about you living in that big, old house with the stairs. You made it clear you...

Movies and the elderly

In 1985, a comic first appeared that proposed one way to judge a film. The Bechdel Test is a simple measure about a movie’s inclusion of female characters. The test asks: 1) Does the movie have at least two women in it? 2) Do they talk to each other? and 3) Does their conversation touch on anything other than a man? Because the Oscars are coming up, this article focuses on creating a similar way to rate how elder-friendly a movie is. Because of the length and breadth of her career, I am calling this the Betty White Movie scale.

Do good. Then do better.

While in college I worked at a nursing home where I met Mary. Mary had severe dementia and was combative. One day while trying to bring her to the commode, she punched me. Hard. With both fists. In the kidneys. I saw stars. Cathy was another resident who would lash out. Cathy did not honor social envelopes nor did she know when enough was enough. She would interrupt me without thinking and would talk for hours if left unchecked. Sometimes, if she felt she was being ignored, she would get in my face and say some pretty unkind things.

Ten things I know about Fair Housing

Fair Housing legislation was created in 1968. It protects people from being discriminated against on the basis of race, color, religion, sex or national origin in the sale or rental of housing. Since its inception, many protected classes have been added including age, pregnancy status, citizenship, familial status, disability status, veteran status, genetic information, and most recently, sexual orientation.